Afternoon selfie after a fantastic day with @myfavouritemilkshake ♥ achievement of the year: winged eyeliner!!
"The key to earthbending is your stance. You’ve got to be steady and strong. Rock is a stubborn element. If you’re going to move it, you’ve got to be like a rock yourself.” - Toph Beifong.
dweebs kissing in italy
pose from here because it was rlly cute
why touch her hair though? Dammit…
Reason number 45-60754280865’11B I won’t go on a mission trip.
I am soooo done
Mission trips make me sick
This baby girl is being treated like a tourist attraction or a wild animal and I am not here for this. This picture says so much about the owner of that white hand.
This photo makes me feel so uncomfortable
this photo makes me fucking angry.
and a mission trip? .. yeah, aka colonialism.
Get OUT of our countries with this fucking bullshit, honestly. Missionaries are already fucking so much up in African countries. As a gay Nigerian I LIVE the repercussions of this daily. I’ve been exorcised, had bibles thrown at me, been sent to priests for a “cure”, been given spiritual baths which burn my skin to “wash the devil out of me” you name it. Done by my own family and people at the behest of “our Lord and Savior”. It’s traumatic, and especially hurtful when we understand that general acceptance of same sex love and eroticism and more nuanced, varied understandings of gender were the norm PRIOR to colonization and missionary activity.
And then we have pictures like this to remind us of the OTHER bullshit these missionary fuckers do. They roll up in our countries as “white saviors” and are constantly doing racist bullshit like this. Objectifying us, casting us as “primitive” and in need of being saved from ourselves and our “heathen” ways. Let’s not even start on the rampant sexual abuses priests committed against Africans across the continent. The ways in which they destroyed and suppressed our cultures. Made us hate ourselves to the point that today we call our own grandfathers and grandmothers with traditional beliefs “despicable heathens” and Satanists. Where they have so warped our cultures, identities and understanding of self, to fit THEIR white colonial mold.
We forget that missionaries came as colonizers first and foremost, and in many cases caused far more egregious and long lasting damage than the colonial administrators themselves. And they are still doing it today. Look at the rise of Christian fundamentalism in Africa in the last 30 years and you will see a direct correlation with a rise in hate and animus against same sex loving and trans people in many African countries. Watch the movie “God Loves Uganda” if you don’t believe me: the legacy and impact of missionaries on Africa is DAMNING and is getting WORSE, especially for those of us who identify as LGBTQ.
It makes me sick. This picture makes me sick. Missionaries make me sick. What they have done to our cultures and communities and traditions makes me sick. Their racism cloaked with a smile and their “good Book” makes me sick. The fact that they think that they’re “doing good” while they’re just reproducing white supremacist patriarchal colonial structures of control, domination and subjugation makes me sick. They don’t see us as full people, but as spectacles for their white gaze, as this picture makes so bitingly clear, and they don’t give a damn as long as they make their God “happy”
You have caused so much pain in my life and that of many of my friends. It hurts.
GET THE FUCK OUT OF AFRICA (or wherever this pic was taken) AND LEAVE OUR CHILDREN ALONE!!!!
And a big fuck you to all of the people doing mission “service trips” to ~*aFRicA*~ too.
I’m utterly and completely done.
Braden Summers traveled to six different countries to prove that no matter where you are, love is equal.
Oh my fucking goodness, I fucking love this.
I’ve reblogged this before, but there are some new pics in it now!
Game of Thrones Wedding Cake
oh yeah lets just have a game of thrones themed wedding
what can possibly go wrong?
friendly reminder that there’s a cut scene in Thor that while the Destroyer is blowing shit up, Darcy runs into the pet store to save all the animals and give them to people leaving the town
as things are being set on fire around her, she talks to the dog, telling him I won’t let the big scary monster step on you, and names it Baker
Why was this cut? I need that scene in the film!
i went to high school with this girl named kelsey and she married a guy she met while studying abroad in portugal and her facebook statuses are my favorite thing in the world.
PEOPLE WERE ASKING FOR AN UPDATE THERE YOU GO.
- And kept his composure and enthusiasm
- And didn’t freeze up like Mikasa
- And didn’t have time to punch somebody like Eren
- And didn’t have time to mourn like Armin
- And didn’t have time to change names like Krista
- And saved Reiner and Krista soon after from the Titans
Reasons why I adore Connie.
This kid does not get nearly enough credit and I absolutely want to just emphasize all this.
Most people focus on Jean being one of those kids who lost it all during the series.
But Connie gets overlooked in this situation. Connie was basically a country bumpkin who left home to join the military to prove himself to his mother. His mother basically told him he wouldn’t be welcome back if he didn’t come back a soldier. (If you’ve read Red Badge of Courage his story actually parallels this book in a number of spots. Especially in the sense that his mother reacted to Connie with the mentality of “You come home with your shield or on it.”)
Keep in mind that Isayama originally intended for Connie to be one of the kids that Eren witnessed in his nightmare about the future. Connie originally was not supposed to survive, same with Sasha. But this leaves way for an explanation as to why Connie is probably a pivotal example of humanity in this series.
Our first exposure to Connie’s personality is his salute, he performs it backwards and this immediately pins him as being not too bright but eager to preform. He’s nervous and anxious but he’s willing to succeed. He comes from a town where he probably doesn’t have the most formal of education, and relies mostly on street smarts (or farm smarts in his example). He may not know a lot in terms of formal education, but he knows a lot about people, for example, when he called out Ymir for treating Armin like shit after Eren was eaten. He knows he has a calling in the military, but he doesn’t seem to see it as anything more than a calling to help mankind. Hell, Connie probably wanted to enlist in the Military police and assure safety for him and his family rather than be confined to the open countryside where as we would later find out — titans still resided. He probably wasn’t expecting to find his calling to be in the Scouting Legion, even with his success in the Training Camps with rank of 8th among the new soldiers. He was probably like “Whoa I can join the Military Police!” and got super hyped about that.
But hey, this kid was then forced to experience tragedy FIRST HAND. This kid who was probably hardly expecting to excel in the military is then thrown into the fray of an assault on the district where the new graduates were supposed to be finishing their training. Instead of getting to relish in the feeling of being a soldier, Connie like all the others is thrown into hell. The whole fandom and the whole series seems to focus on the events of Eren because this is where his big shifter reveal is, and Jean because of his loss of Marco.
But we’ve got Connie Springer. This country kid who was just enlisting in the military to make his family proud, and how the hell is he going to make them proud when he’s got to face all this?
Given that this, and then the discovery of his home town being overtaken by titans, as well as the realization that his entire family had been turned into titans and subsequently died in the process, we’re talking about a kid whose entire perspective of reality has been flipped on his ass. While everyone gets some means of coping with their grief, Eren channeling his anger into combat, Mikasa’s numbness, Armin’s dedication to those who remain, Jean’s opportunity for closure at the body burning, and even the methods of the shifters who react by hiding their emotions, distance and mental delusions, Connie is the only one of the group who had to pick up and keep going.
Connie was not allowed any time to mourn for his family, he had no closure, no chance to back away and breathe and take things in. Not only did he not have the chance to recuperate, but he lost the friends he could rely on for comfort for something like this.
People don’t give this kid enough credit.
Connie Springer is the example of how sometimes in life, you don’t get the chance to recover. He’s the example of how you need to keep your head up high and keep going.
And you know what? That’s just what he’s doing.
You go, Connie Springer. Keep your head up and keep fighting.
I hope you get to fuck somebody to an Arctic Monkeys song
Can you control your metabolism with your mind?
Turns out … yes.
Food as placebo! Does labeling something “low fat” or “healthy” trick our brains in the wrong direction? Feed your mind with this great vid from NPR Science.
Previously: Learn more about the weirdness of placebos, from medicine color to pill size, with this video.
The fact that this works for one feeding with a single milkshake means nothing. It’s basically a trick to fool your body into feeling fuller, temporarily, but it says nothing about how your body treats hunger over the long term.
See, there are three kinds of hunger.
There’s mechanical hunger, which is your stomach being empty and growling. It says “PUT FOOD IN YOUR STOMACH.”
There’s mouth hunger or aesthetic hunger, which is your need to eat food that satisfies you psychologically. Comfort food, the native foods of your culture, foods whose tastes and textures satisfy you innately. It says “PUT YUMMY THINGS IN YOUR MOUTH!”
And there’s chemical hunger. Chemical hunger is craving … something. That feeling you get when you don’t eat enough fruit for a while, and suddenly you crave citrus. The feeling you get when you are bleeding from your vagina for the tenth day in a row, and would literally murder old ladies for a steak and/or a bucket of bone marrow. The feeling you get when, for no reason you can name, you crave something like almonds or anchovies or really dark chocolate. At its most immediate, it’s the low-blood-sugar shakes and dizziness. At its most insidious, it’s the thing that leads you to eat and eat until you are satisfied. It says “MEET YOUR NUTRITIONAL REQUIREMENTS BECAUSE YOUR CELLS ARE STARVING, YOU NUMBSKULL.”
Reduced ghrelin may not have much effect on mouth hunger, and it absolutely isn’t going to affect chemical hunger. It will affect mechanical hunger, but only for a short time.
As someone who, out of a hateful illness, starved herself for years like nobody else could do it right, I probably know more about actual hunger than most people ever, ever will. I can tell you all kinds of things about it. Things you probably don’t want to know, honestly.
I can tell you right now that I tried all the tricks.
I tried using smaller plates.
I tried drinking loads of water before each meal.
I tried chewing slowly. (SOOOO SLOWLY.)
I tried filling up on really bulky, low-calorie foods.
I tried really small, frequent meals.
I mean, if there was a trick, I tried it. If I’d known about this, I’d have tried this too.
And none of the tricks worked. I was still hungry pretty much every few hours, and the less I ate, the less time it took for me to get hungry. Eventually, I was hungry all the time. Like, I was so hungry I stopped being able to feel mechanical hunger.
No, stop, think about it. My body had become so used to my stomach being empty that it stopped sending me those signals completely. And yet … I was hungry. All the time. Even when I satisfied my mouth hunger, I was hungry. I needed to eat. I can’t even describe what that felt like, except to say that it was overpowering.
When I finally started recovering, I ate whatever I wanted. And for two years, two years, all I wanted to eat was salt, fat, sugar. For several months, I still never felt hungry, but I couldn’t stop eating. I would eat until I felt physically sick, and I still WANTED to eat more. Because I had been starving myself, and that is what starving yourself does.
Because my body knew, it knew, that 700 calories a day was not 2,000 calories a day. It knew it was starving. It thought it was dying.
You cannot fool that. You cannot permanently change your body’s metabolism with tricks. Just because it works once doesn’t mean it will work the nine hundredth time you try it.
So, unless it can trick your body into literally thinking that 100 calories is 300 calories forever and ever, your weight loss tricks are not going to work forever, you will rebound, you will gain back the weight you lose.
Research like this is useful, because knowing how the human body and mind interact is useful.
Research like this in the hands of people who aren’t qualified to draw conclusions from it is not useful. This will no doubt somehow enter the vocabulary of weight-loss “tricks” intended to help desperate and misguided people fool themselves into thinking they are smarter than the literal cells in their body, when they are not. And that is a sad thing.
So for the people saying “If you think of your kale/wheatgrass/quinoa/goat placenta smoothie as really indulgent, you won’t feel hungry afterward!”, you’re wrong. Do it often enough, and you’ll feel hungry constantly.
There’s not a shortcut. I don’t recommend weight-loss dieting to anyone, but if you’re going to pursue it — again, just don’t do this if you still believe all the crap about being thin being a somehow magical state that will insulate you from all kinds of physical and psychological and social ills — you should know that you are working against literally every cell of your body. There’s not a work-around for that. It is a bone-scraping, desperate hunger you will feel every minute of every day, worse and worse the longer you go.
Clever “tricks” like this are sops thrown to you to say “Look, look, it’s easy, look how easy it is! Look how stupid the human body is! Look how much more powerful your brain is! You can totally fool yourself out of being a meat-popsicle that craves fat and starch and salt if you just work at being satisfied with less.”
All they do is make it easier to start, and easier to keep limping along pretending nothing is wrong, when you can feel with every fiber of your being that there is.
Whenever new “science” shows something that implies, from research based on a single event, one single meal or item of food, that there is a faster way to lose weight, or an easier way to not feel hungry, give it the stinkiest of all stink-eyes. Because one meal? One meal more or less is not hunger. Not really. The measure of hunger is what happens once you have depleted your body’s reserves enough for it to start eating itself away … and then you keep going. And going. And going. What you feel then is hunger.
You know what else probably kills your appetite? Videos of surgery. Nobody’s suggesting that we take up watching those before our meals so we don’t feel like eating as much. And if we did? We’d get used to it pretty fast, as the large number of surgeons nurses and veterinarians and techs who can still eat will attest.
They get over it because our bodies need food. We need to eat, both physically and psychologically, to be healthy. And that is stronger than pretty much any other urge we have except maybe thirst — I don’t know, I never tried to dehydrate myself to death. Hunger takes longer to kill you. (And yeah, you feel every minute of it.) It is stronger than the urge to lick Ben Barnes. Stronger than the urge to pet kittens. I could stop thinking about those things for hours at a time. I never forgot that I was hungry.
Also, as one final note, there’s a huge error in this research. Food is not neutral, okay? We have such a guilt complex around food these days that if I give a random person a 600-calorie treat, it’s 99% certain that they will feel some guilt. And they will feel less guilt over a 100-calorie treat. And guilt? A surprisingly good motivator for feeling sated sooner. Which is why the diet industry is so huge on guilt and shame. So unless you could find someone who had literally no associations with food/calories/guilt — and these days, even finding tiny children who do not have that is going to be a job of work — your study might be measuring something other than what you think it is.
(And guilt doesn’t work long-term, either. I was still hungry enough after four years of 700 calories a day to eat a whole goddamn box of Pop-Tarts. I felt pretty fucking guilty after the first one. I still ate them all, and every piece of fruit in the house.)
(Also, anyone who expects you to endure that sort of hunger just to access a higher tier of respect in the pecking order is a fucking douchebag and you can safely disregard anything they say as toxic bullshit.)
Ugh. Rant over. I’m going to go eat something bad for me, because I fucking can. The best way not to feel hungry — eat when you want to eat.
this is probably the most well-spoken and intelligent thing I’ve read today, and if you scroll past it well you’re missing out